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If You Were Betrayed By A Friend, Here Is What You Should Do

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Betrayal is never pretty.

The focus tends to be on betrayal in romantic relationships, but the reality is that a betrayal by a close friend can be just as upsetting.

If this has happened to you, it’s not necessarily going to be an easy thing to get over.

If you decide that your friendship has come to an end, it’ll take you a while to adjust to life without them in it.

But if you want to keep this friend in your life, you’ll need to face up to what’s happened and work through your feelings before you can start to repair the relationship and move forwards.

Here are the steps you should take either way.

What To Do When A Friend Betrays You

1. accept that being betrayed by a friend is deeply hurtful..

If you find that you’ve been betrayed by a friend, it’s completely normal to be devastated by it.

Some people try to fight these feelings, not understanding why a friend could have such power over them, and why a betrayal on the part of the friend can rock their world so.

That’s largely down to the fact that we tend to place far more value on romantic and even familial relationships in our society and often ignore the power of friendships.

But if we’re honest with ourselves about our feelings, we start to appreciate just how important friendship is to us, and what a big impact it can have on our lives when it goes wrong.

Our friends are the ones who are there for us when we need them and are a constant presence in our lives.

They’re the family we choose, and the people we confide our innermost fears and desires to.

Whereas we don’t get to pick our families, and romantic partners often come and go, good friends are there for the long haul.

They see us at our best, and our worst, and every step along the way. And they love us just the way we are.

So, it’s important to remember that it’s totally legitimate for a friend’s betrayal to have cut you so deeply.

Don’t beat yourself up about it, but accept the feelings, give them their due importance and be prepared to examine them and work through them.

2. If you can, have an honest conversation with your friend.

Your friend might have betrayed you to such an extent that you’re not willing to speak to them face to face (at least not for a long while). And that’s your prerogative.

But if you can bring yourself to speak to them, an honest conversation could be the salvation of your friendship, or could at least help you to move on, even if you choose not to remain friends with them going forwards.

You both need to be totally honest about things, without letting your ego get in the way.

Give them a chance to explain the situation from their point of view. Even if it doesn’t make things better between you, hearing their reasons for acting the way they did might help you to understand the things that have happened.

This might not be relevant in your case, but you may also need to consider whether you’ve had a role to play in what’s happened.

If you haven’t been the best friend to them in recent times, that might have contributed to their behavior. That’s not an excuse for their betrayal, but it’s something to bear in mind.

3. Figure out why you feel so betrayed.

What is it specifically about what your friend did that has hurt you so?

You need to take some time to yourself to reflect on why this is hurting you so badly. What elements of what they did bothered you the most?

Was it a concrete action that you felt was a betrayal, or was it them withholding the truth about something from you?

It might be fairly obvious, but the main reasons you’re so hurt by it might be more complex than they appear to be on the surface.

4. Ask whether the relationship is worth saving.

So, you’ve had an honest talk with them about what happened, and you’ve had a chance to analyze the way it’s made you feel.

It’s now time to look to the future and decide whether the friendship you had with them is salvageable and, if so, if it’s really worth your while putting the effort in to patching things up with them.

How important are they in your life? Would your life be poorer without them in it? Are you willing to put the necessary work in to rebuild the friendship?

Was this betrayal entirely out of the blue, and out of character? Or has this person never really be the kind of friend you deserve?

Don’t just focus on how they’ve betrayed you in the present, but think back.

If they’ve consistently been a good friend to you in the past, there for you when you need them, providing you with good advice, being loyal, and enriching your life, then one betrayal might not be enough to counteract all that.

Or it might be. It’s entirely your decision.

5. Ask whether they are sorry.

Of course, a large part of how you move forwards will depend on how your friend is dealing with the situation.

If they can’t understand your feelings of betrayal and haven’t apologized or done what they can to improve matters and make things up to you, that might be an indication that the friendship doesn’t have a future.

If, on the other hand, they’ve shown remorse and are doing their best to make things up to you, that might be a sign that your friendship could survive their betrayal.

6. Don’t rush into a decision.

When we’re angry, we all make decisions that we later regret, and you don’t want the loss of a good friend to be the result of an impetuous decision you made in the heat of the moment.

Give yourself time to calm down and mull over the situation before you make any decisions.

It might be best to avoid speaking to the friend in question until you’ve regained some kind of equilibrium, so that you don’t say anything you might want to take back later on.

After all, if you know someone well, you’ll probably know just how to hit them where it hurts.

Try to focus on the fact that it would be horrible to sacrifice a lifetime of friendship by saying something you don’t mean when the red mist comes down.

7. Say goodbye.

Some betrayals are things you can work past and come back from. But sometimes, a betrayal can spell the end of a friendship.

If you’ve decided that that’s the case with this friendship, it’s time to cut the cord.

It’s your decision if you’d like to have a formal break-up conversation with them, or not. But you wouldn’t just end a romantic relationship without letting the other person know that it’s over, so maybe you should apply the same logic here.

It won’t be an easy conversation to have, but you might want to speak to them, letting them know why you can’t find it within you to forgive them, and that you no longer want them to be a part of your life.

That’ll provide closure for you both and might stop them from trying to contact you if you don’t want them to, which can make it easier for you to move on.

8. Or, forgive them.

On the other hand, you might come to the realization that, despite the betrayal, this person is extremely important to you, and you’re willing to forgive them and work toward building the friendship up again.

In order for you to be able to be friends again, you need to forgive them for what they did. You don’t necessarily have to forget about it entirely, and you probably never will, but you do have to genuinely forgive them in your heart of hearts.

Any lingering resentment will only spell trouble further down the line.

9. Don’t expect miracles overnight.

If you’ve decided to try to rebuild a friendship, don’t expect the two of you to be back to normal within the blink of an eye. Your friendship has been through the mill and is going to need some significant time to recover.

You both need time to process what’s happened and figure out what this new stage of your friendship is going to look like as you move forward.

Be patient with one another, and whenever you find things tough, remember why you’ve chosen to keep this person as part of your life.

And remember, just as it won’t be quick, it won’t be easy. When you decide to try to patch things up, you need to be aware that it’s going to take work and determination.

10. Remember: a good friend is a treasure.

If you want to forgive your friend and move on, but you’re finding it tough, just remember that good friends don’t grow on trees, and friendship is worth fighting for.

Betrayal can spell the end of friendships, but with a commitment on both your parts and love and care for one another, the best of friends can overcome anything.

Why Did My Friend Betray Me?

It can be surprising when someone you care about betrays your trust. Why would they do that to you?

Here are some possible explanations:

1. They didn’t value the friendship as much as you did.

Were you in a one-sided friendship ?

If you cared more about your friendship than they did, it could explain what happened. And why.

If your friend didn’t value your friendship, they weren’t afraid of losing it either. So, backstabbing you was worth the risk to them.

Your friendship was less important to them than doing what they did to hurt you.

They prioritized their happiness over a friendship that they were fine with losing.

2. They wanted to end the friendship.

What if your friends did this to sabotage your friendship?

If they didn’t want to end the friendship directly, they could have been two-faced to make the friendship end on its own.

At best, they didn’t care if the friendship ended. But they may have betrayed you on purpose because they wanted things to end.

They were too afraid to face you and tell you this, so they caused you a trauma to make you leave on your own.

It’s one of the more brutal explanations for friend betrayal.

3. They made an impulsive mistake.

Let’s give your friend the benefit of the doubt. What if they didn’t mean to hurt you?

If what they did was an impulsive mistake, they will feel bad about it, apologize, and try to make up for it.

Sometimes people do things out of impulse that they regret later on.

If your friend regrets what they did, you might want to consider giving them a chance to regain your trust.

People make mistakes, and if your friend wasn’t thinking straight when they did what they did, they probably didn’t mean to cause you pain.

4. They were suffering from poor mental health.

People sometimes do bad things because they’re suffering from stress, depression, anxiety, or some other mental health issue.

How has your friend been feeling lately? Were they in a bad mood for a while now, and could some major stress in their life explain what happened?

If your friend is suffering from poor mental health, you should try to show some understanding. They probably regret what they did.

Maybe they can explain to you what made them feel like it was the right choice at that precise moment.

Of course, you may not want to let them off the hook if this is a repeated behavior. It is okay—healthy even—to let a friend go if their poor mental health is harming your well-being over a prolonged period of time.

5. They were mad at you.

People will want to hurt you when they are mad at you, even if they are your friends.

If you betrayed your friend first, they probably wanted to hurt you back.

But they could want to hurt you even if you did nothing to them.

They could be mad at you because of a disagreement you had and decide to punish you by breaking your trust.

Backstabbing can often be used as a form of revenge or punishment.

6. They are just self-centered.

Does your friend only think about themselves? Did they prioritize their needs like they always do?

If your friend is self-centered, they probably put their happiness, needs, or wants above a friendship with you.

Your friend only cares about themselves and may even be a narcissist. To be honest, this is a classic sign of a fake friend who doesn’t really care about you.

It could have been a situation where they had to choose between you and themselves, and they put themselves first like they always do.

7. They couldn’t control their emotions.

Emotions can cause people to do crazy things, and spiteful things as well.

Your friend may have betrayed you because they couldn’t control their emotions.

Maybe they were mad at you, in love with someone, or sad about something that happened.

They could have even been too drunk to control themselves or under the influence of drugs. If your friend would never betray you sober, they may have done it because of too many drinks.

8. They prioritized their romantic relationship.

Most people will prioritize a romantic relationship over a friendship.

If your friend betrayed you because they had to choose between their partner and you, they just prioritized their romantic relationship.

This may not feel right to you, but it’s a choice most people will make in that situation.

Although friendships can last longer than romantic relationships, people tend to prioritize the latter.

Examples Of Betrayal

In which way did your friend betray you? Here are the most common examples of betrayal in friendships:

You have every right to doubt your friend’s loyalty if they have been dishonest or deceitful.

Sometimes friends tell white little lies to protect your feelings, but even that could be considered a betrayal of your trust depending on the context.

For instance, a friend could lie to you that your zit is barely noticeable when it’s actually huge. That is certainly not the same as if they would lie about their feelings for you or their true intentions.

2. Gossiping.

Do your friends talk behind your back?

If they gossip about other people to you, you can bet that they gossip about you to others too.

They could even be spreading rumors, whether those rumors are true or made up.

If your friend is two-faced, you should reconsider your friendship.

But, bear in mind that gossip is not always the same as badmouthing you to others.

It’s not the same when your friend gossips about how much your new car costs and when they badmouth you by highlighting your negative qualities.

But they could also be spilling the beans about your personal life. Revealing your secrets is a huge break of trust.

3. Stealing.

Your friend could steal from you. They could steal your money, your personal belongings, your credit cards, or even your boyfriend or girlfriend.

It’s better to have enemies than bad friends like these, but it happens.

This is not the same as borrowing small things and never giving them back. Although that is a nasty habit too, it is not the same as deliberately stealing valuable things from you.

4. Keeping secrets.

Did your friend keep secrets from you?

If you needed to know something and they kept quiet about it, it is similar to lying to you.

Withholding information could be a form of being dishonest.

Your friend shouldn’t have to tell you everything that happens in their life, but they should tell you things that affect you, as well as the important information about them that could affect your friendship.

5. Being disrespectful.

An act of betrayal could be a sign that your friend doesn’t respect you .

If they disrespect your boundaries, they’re not a good friend to you.

They should respect your boundaries if you’ve clearly communicated what you will and won’t tolerate.

A friend might also act disrespectfully to you in public by putting you down or even humiliating you . You don’t need friends like that in your life.

Don’t tolerate it if your friend puts you down or humiliates you when you’re alone either. Friends tease and joke, but good friends never cross the line.

6. Breaking promises.

What if your friend constantly makes promises that they can’t keep?

They get your hopes up for nothing and leave you disappointed.

If they promised to do or not do something, they should stick to their word.

Sometimes, it can happen that a person can’t keep their promise for reasons that are out of their control. But frequently making and breaking promises is a whole other thing.

7. Using you.

Unfortunately, your friend could be using you , whether it’s for your money, time, attention, or something else.

When someone has a hidden agenda for being friends with you, they’re not really your friends.

Your friends should genuinely like you for who you are, and you should help each other and support each other.

But using someone is never mutual like that, and one person always gives more while the other just takes.

8. Cheating.

How can a friend cheat on you? Obviously, this is not the same as cheating in a romantic relationship.

But, betraying your loyalty is a form of cheating.

Whether your friends broke your trust by lying to you, revealing your secrets, or in any other way, they cheated.

Cheating could also mean that your friend befriends someone else and prioritizes them over you, even if you introduced them in the first place.

The Damaging Effects Of Friend Betrayal

What can a betrayal from a friend do to you and your mental health? Here are the most common effects of friend betrayal:

Naturally, this situation will cause you a lot of stress.

Why did they do it? What else did they do that you don’t know about yet?

Can you ever trust them again? Can you trust anyone again?

Questions like these could put you under a lot of stress. You could also have mood swings, from being stressed to feeling numb and back and forth.

2. Feeling hurt.

It hurts when someone you love betrays you.

Betrayal is a type of trauma that needs a lot of time to heal.

You could be feeling hurt for months after the incident happened, or even hold onto a grudge for years.

It’s hard to forgive someone for hurting you so much. But it is advised that you forgive your friends whether you want to stay friends with them or not.

It will help you move on and recover from this faster.

3. Being disappointed.

It’s only natural to feel let down by your friend . You expected more from them.

What they did left you disappointed in them, and possibly in the the whole world.

How could they have done this to you? How could you have let yourself trust them?

If you didn’t see the betrayal coming, you’re probably asking yourself tough questions like these.

You might even be disappointed in yourself for letting yourself trust this person and not noticing the truth earlier.

4. Being shocked and confused.

You probably didn’t expect your friend to betray you, so their behavior left you shocked and confused.

You could start doubting everything they ever told you because you don’t know what to think anymore.

It’s confusing how someone so close to you could stab you in the back.

You don’t understand their motivation and reasoning for doing what they did.

Didn’t they know that they could lose you? Why were they willing to risk that happening?

5. Low self-esteem.

Your self-esteem may take a hit by all this, especially if your friend was putting you down or badmouthing you.

Maybe they even betrayed you by stealing your boyfriend or girlfriend.

You could have problems with low self-esteem because of it.

Luckily, you can work on your self-esteem and feel better again.

But never let your friend repeat what they did.

6. Trust issues.

This bad experience could leave you with trust issues.

It’s not just that you’ll have trouble trusting that particular friend, but you’ll also find it hard to trust people in general.

You can work on your trust issues with a therapist.

Don’t let one bad experience ruin more of your friendships and relationships.

7. Feeling grief.

You are probably overwhelmed with a sense of loss. You’re grieving the loss of trust, and possibly the loss of the friendship.

If you need to cry or let out your pain in another healthy way, don’t hesitate to do so.

Take all the time you need to grieve in peace before you are ready to move on.

8. Need for revenge.

What if you want to get back at your friend for hurting you?

If you’re angry, you could be thinking about revenge.

However, this is a very bad idea.

Even if they did something terrible to you, don’t stoop to their level. It’s a much better idea to learn to forgive them and let go.

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Friendship betrayal: Why it hurts so much

Navigate the turbulent seas of emotional betrayal and discover your route to recovery and personal growth.

Friendship is a precious gift that can bring immense joy and fulfillment. It’s built on a foundation of mutual respect , trust, and affection, and often leads to a deep emotional bond that can feel like an extension of ourselves.

But what happens when that bond is broken? What happens when the friend you trusted and cared for betrays you? The pain can be intense, and the hurt can run deep.

This piece explores the complex emotions that arise when we feel betrayed by a friend. It’s a meaningful exploration of a difficult topic that many of us can relate to.

So, let’s dive deep into understanding the  profound hurt caused by betrayal in friendships and how to find the way forward .

The depth of emotional investment

When we form friendships, we create an emotional bond based on trust, affection, and mutual respect.

This bond is nurtured and strengthened over time, often making a friend feel like an extension of ourselves. Therefore, when a friend betrays us, it feels like a part of us has been damaged or lost.

The pain we experience is a reflection of the depth of our emotional investment in the relationship.

The role of trust in friendship

Trust is the cornerstone of any friendship. It is this trust that allows us to be vulnerable, share our thoughts, dreams, fears, and secrets with our friends.

We believe in their loyalty and expect them to safeguard our confidences. Therefore, when this  trust is broken , it can have a devastating impact on our emotional well-being.

The betrayal not only shatters our faith in the friend but also leads us to question our judgement and ability to trust others.

Feelings of deceit and disillusionment

Feeling deceived by a friend can lead to a strong sense of disillusionment. The friend you thought you knew, and who you believed valued and respected you, suddenly becomes a stranger.

This drastic shift in perception can be extremely painful and unsettling.

For instance, imagine finding out that your best friend has been spreading rumors about you.

The person you trusted the most in the world, the person you shared your deepest secrets with, is now the source of your pain and humiliation.

This example illustrates the profound hurt that can be caused by betrayal in friendship .

The impact on self-esteem

Being betrayed by a friend can also have a dramatic impact on our self-esteem. This is particularly true if the betrayal involves humiliation or public embarrassment .

In such cases, the betrayed person may begin to feel inadequate or unworthy, questioning their own worth and value.

The betrayal can act as a mirror, reflecting a distorted image of self-worth that can be deeply damaging to our self-esteem.

The way forward

While it’s undeniable that being betrayed by a friend really hurts, it’s crucial to remember that one person’s actions should not define your self-worth or influence your ability to trust others.

Healing from betrayal takes time and patience, but it’s ultimately an opportunity for growth and self-reflection.

Don’t let the actions of one person close your heart to the possibility of new and sincere friendships .

In conclusion, the deep hurt we feel when betrayed by a friend stems from the depth of our emotional investment, the breach of trust, feelings of deceit and disillusionment, and the impact on our self-esteem.

Remember, it’s not about you, but about the other person’s actions and choices.

So, did this article help you understand why being betrayed by a friend really hurts? If it did, please feel free to share it on your social networks.

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My Friend Betrayed Me—Should I Repair Our Friendship or Cut My Losses?

Some wounds can't be healed

Wendy Rose Gould is a lifestyle reporter with over a decade of experience covering health and wellness topics.

Ivy Kwong, LMFT, is a psychotherapist specializing in relationships, love and intimacy, trauma and codependency, and AAPI mental health.  

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• Does It Always Make Sense to Rebuild?

When To Consider Repairing Your Friendship

When walking away may make sense.

• How To Rebuild Friendship After Betrayal

Your bestie has your back through thick and then. They’re your go-to when the world throws a rough curve ball and the first person you run to with exciting news. So when they betray your trust or your friendship? That cut hurts deeply.

“Being betrayed by a friend violates the trust of someone who was supposed to be a safe space,” says psychologist Kiki Ramsey , Ph.D, MCC. “Friendships grow through shared experiences and confidence, so when that trust is broken it feels like a personal attack. The emotional fallout can be intense, leaving you questioning the relationship, your judgment, and your worth.”

The good news is that in many cases you can salvage—and even strengthen—your friendship. It’ll just take mutual effort (and time) to repair and restore trust, vulnerability, and connection. But it is possible! Follow these therapist-approved tips on how to rebuild your friendship after a betrayal.

Does It Always Make Sense to Rebuild? 

The sting of betrayal is a hard one to deal with, and you might even wonder to yourself: is it even worth rebuilding the friendship in the first place?

“When deciding whether to mend or move on from a friendship, consider the nature and frequency of the betrayal,” Dr. Ramsey says. “If it’s a one-time event with a sincere apology and a change plan, rebuilding might be worth exploring.” 

Kiki Ramsey, Ph.D, MCC

If it’s a one-time event with a sincere apology and a change plan, rebuilding might be worth exploring.

However, if betrayals seem to happen way too frequently—or they haven’t been able to show any sense of remorse or willingness to change—then investing your energy elsewhere may be healthier. 

• It was a one-off mistake or misunderstanding
• The mistake hasn’t completely upended your life or caused irreparable harm
• The mistake didn’t put you or others in grave danger
• They sincerely apologize and show genuine remorse 
• Your friend understands how their actions hurt you and did not intend to hurt you 
• They are committed to being better and to learning and doing things differently moving forward
• You have a deep, positive history together that’s otherwise damage-free
• Betrayals happen frequently 
• They aren’t remorseful or understanding of the pain they’ve caused you 
• It feels like they don’t value your friendship in general 
• Effort to mend or grow together is one-sided (they don’t put the same energy in)
• You’ve seen them often treat others poorly, too 
• You’ve reflected on your friendship together and realize your values no longer align

The Truth About *Real* Friendships

Here’s the thing about any type of relationship: they’re going to have ups and downs and won’t follow a linear path. “Understanding that human nature is flawed means one person’s mistakes don’t necessarily reflect who they are or how they can continue to support you in the future,” says licensed therapist Rachel Goldberg , LMFT, PMH-C. Keep that in mind as you forge your path. 

Bottom line: If you feel strongly that the bond you shared is worth rekindling—and if both parties are willing to learn and grow from past experiences—it is worthwhile to explore re-connection. Science repeatedly shows that friendships keep us healthy and happy, so putting effort into mending things when it makes sense is worth it in the long run.

How To Rebuild Friendship After Betrayal 

The feelings you experience after a friend betrays you can be downright painful. You may feel an overwhelming flurry of anger, sadness, frustration, shock, and loneliness—after all, they were the one you turned to so many times for everything else. 

“Betrayal typically comes from someone you’ve allowed into your inner circle, someone who plays a significant role in your emotional foundation,” says Patricia S. Dixon , Psy.D,  a licensed clinical psychologist. “This turmoil is a natural response to the loss of trust and connection, and it can take time to process and heal from these feelings.” 

Give yourself time to process what happened, and then—if it feels right—take these steps to rebuild your friendship again. 

Rachel Goldberg, LMFT, PMH-C

Having a conversation about how the person hurt you, why you feel betrayed, and allowing them to apologize and acknowledge the pain they’ve caused is a great first step in rebuilding the friendship.

1. Validate Your Pain

Acknowledge your pain and hurt. Feeling grief is a healthy and normal response, and it is important to honor these feelings and not minimize or avoid them.

2. Have an Open, Honest Conversation 

Step number two is to talk it out—ideally in person. A phone call may work, but try to avoid texting back and forth for this one. “Having a conversation about how the person hurt you, why you feel betrayed, and allowing them to apologize and acknowledge the pain they’ve caused is a great first step in rebuilding the friendship,” says Goldberg.

3. Listen to Their Side 

Give your friend a chance to explain their perspective. This allows you to better understand where they are coming from, which can mend hurt feelings and soften anger. This is also an opportunity to assess whether their apology feels genuine , and if you think that it’s possible to move forward. 

4. Remind Yourself Why You Were Friends 

In the face of betrayal, you may question your own judgment with friendships. As long as this is a one-off betrayal (versus an ongoing pattern), it may be helpful to remind yourself why you two were friends to begin with. Goldberg says, “Reminding yourself of the reasons you are grateful for the friendship can help put you back in the mindset of how much care there is between you two.”

5. Genuinely Forgive Them

Grudges and building resentment won’t help either of you. Dr. Dixon says, “Decide to forgive, while also clearly communicating your expectations for the friendship moving forward. This helps establish a foundation of trust and respect as you work to rebuild your connection.”

6. Take Small Steps to Reconnect

You may be surprised at how good you feel once you’ve hashed things out with your friend. Even then, it’s smart to ease back into the friendship. Dr. Ramsey suggests taking “small steps to reconnect and reestablish shared activities and positive experiences, allowing the friendship to grow and heal over time.”

It may take some time, and things may not feel exactly like they once were, but following these steps will help you rebuild your friendship and get back to a more familiar place.

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By Wendy Rose Gould Wendy Rose Gould is a lifestyle reporter with over a decade of experience covering health and wellness topics.

Dealing with Betrayal in Friendships

Betrayal in friendships can be incredibly painful and challenging to navigate. Whether it involves broken trust, dishonesty, or a significant letdown, dealing with betrayal requires careful consideration and emotional resilience. Here’s a comprehensive guide on how to handle betrayal in friendships.

Understanding Betrayal

Types of betrayal.

• Broken Trust : When a friend violates your trust by sharing your secrets or lying to you.
• Disloyalty : When a friend sides with others against you, or engages in behavior that undermines your relationship.
• Abandonment : When a friend abruptly ends the friendship or is consistently unreliable.

Emotional Impact

• Shock and Disbelief : Initial reactions often include shock and disbelief, as betrayal can be unexpected.
• Hurt and Anger : Feelings of hurt, anger, and sadness are common as the reality of the betrayal sinks in.
• Loss of Trust : Betrayal can lead to a general loss of trust, not only in the betraying friend but also in others.

Steps to Deal with Betrayal

1. acknowledge your feelings.

• Accept Your Emotions : Allow yourself to feel the full range of emotions that come with betrayal. Suppressing feelings can lead to prolonged distress.
• Journal : Writing down your thoughts and feelings can help process the betrayal and gain clarity.

2. Evaluate the Situation

• Understand the Context : Consider the context and details of the betrayal. Was it a one-time mistake or a pattern of behavior?
• Assess the Relationship : Reflect on the overall friendship. Were there signs of toxicity or issues that were ignored?

3. Communicate with Your Friend

• Have an Honest Conversation : If you feel comfortable, have an open and honest conversation with your friend about the betrayal. Use “I” statements to express how you feel without blaming (e.g., “I felt hurt when…”).
• Listen : Allow your friend to explain their side of the story. Understanding their perspective can provide insights and help determine the next steps.

4. Set Boundaries

• Establish Boundaries : Determine what boundaries are necessary to protect yourself from further harm. This might include limiting contact or defining acceptable behaviors.
• Communicate Boundaries : Clearly communicate your boundaries to your friend and ensure they understand the consequences of crossing them.

5. Decide on the Future of the Friendship

• Evaluate Forgiveness : Consider whether you can forgive your friend and rebuild trust. This depends on the nature of the betrayal and your own capacity for forgiveness.
• Rebuild Trust : If you decide to continue the friendship, take steps to rebuild trust gradually. This requires effort from both parties.
• End the Friendship : Sometimes, ending the friendship is the best option for your emotional well-being. Give yourself permission to move on if the relationship is beyond repair.

6. Seek Support

• Talk to Others : Share your experience with other friends, family members, or a therapist. They can offer support, advice, and a different perspective.
• Join Support Groups : Consider joining support groups where you can connect with others who have experienced similar situations.

7. Focus on Self-Care

• Practice Self-Compassion : Be kind to yourself during this difficult time. Acknowledge that it’s okay to feel hurt and that healing takes time.
• Engage in Activities You Enjoy : Keep yourself engaged in activities that bring you joy and relaxation. This can help divert your mind from the pain of betrayal.
• Mindfulness and Meditation : Practices like mindfulness and meditation can help manage stress and promote emotional healing.

Moving Forward

Learn from the experience.

• Reflect on Lessons Learned : Reflect on what you’ve learned from the experience. This can help you set better boundaries and choose more trustworthy friends in the future.
• Personal Growth : Use the experience as an opportunity for personal growth. Understand your values and what you need in a friendship.

Rebuilding Trust in Others

• Take Your Time : Don’t rush into new friendships. Take your time to get to know new people and build trust gradually.
• Communicate Clearly : Be open about your needs and expectations in future friendships. Clear communication helps prevent misunderstandings and potential betrayals.

Forgiveness

• Forgive for Yourself : Forgiveness doesn’t mean condoning the betrayal. It’s about freeing yourself from the burden of resentment and anger.
• Move On : Whether or not you continue the friendship, forgiveness allows you to move on with your life without the weight of past hurts.

Dealing with betrayal in friendships is a complex and painful process, but it can also be an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. By acknowledging your feelings, evaluating the situation, communicating with your friend, setting boundaries, and focusing on self-care, you can navigate this difficult experience and emerge stronger. Whether you choose to rebuild the friendship or move on, the key is to prioritize your well-being and learn from the experience.

Essays on Betrayal

Gina Davis, PsyD

Psychotherapy in California & Washington DC

Betrayed by a friend? Read this.

When betrayal enters into a friendship, it can transform a source of great joy into a source of immense pain. Maybe a friend told a secret they swore up and down to keep confidential. Maybe they sided with someone who has acted abusively towards you. Or maybe in a heated moment, they deliberately pushed a painful button that they knew would hurt you the most.

Regardless of what the infraction looks like, the bottom line is that you no longer feel you can trust your friend. You no longer have that easy feeling of safety with them – whether that safety was emotional, mental, or physical.

Being betrayed by a friend is an experience many of us have or will encounter in life. In this week’s post, I will share three stages for healing from a friend’s betrayal.

#1: Get Safe

When a betrayal occurs, the feeling of safety and trust are often compromised. As with a trauma, you need to take a step back and get safe again. This could look like removing yourself from the conversation, blocking or removing the person from your social media, setting boundaries, staying away from the person in real life, or anything else that helps you fell safe.

Getting safe is not about being “mean” or “getting back” at your friend. It’s about taking care of yourself. It’s extremely important to practice your self-soothing skills and give yourself all the time you need time to reset from the experience. You will know when you are ready to move on to stage two, which is:

#2: Process What Happened

Once you have established safety for yourself, you’ll want to process the events and your feelings about them. You could talk to an objective person about what happened (I would avoid talking to mutual friends as this could lead to more issues), discuss your feelings with a professional therapist or counselor, or reflect on your own by writing in a journal.

During the processing stage, you may find it useful to examine the friendship as a whole. Be honest with yourself about trends and repeated behaviors within the friendship by asking yourself the following questions:

• Was this betrayal a one-off event, or part of a pattern? Have there been other hurtful behaviors over time?
• Does this friendship have the consistent hallmarks of a healthy relationship? Read about what these are here .
• If I’m being honest with myself, how do I feel in this friendship most of the time?
• How do I contribute to the problem? This is not about victim-blaming or taking responsibility for other people’s actions, but recognizing that friendships are a dynamic between two people and being willing to own your part. For example: do you contribute to an unhealthy dynamic by not communicating when something bothers you, expecting your friend to read your mind, or being passive aggressive? You can’t control anyone but yourself, so it’s important to reflect on how your own actions could be improved for the benefit of all your relationships.

#3: Move Forward

Moving forward will look different for every person and scenario, and t here is no universal right or wrong way to proceed. The most important thing to keep in mind is that YOU get to choose what will work best for you. Your friend may want you to forget about the incident and just move on. Or maybe they recognize how much their behavior hurt you, have apologized, and are attempting to understand your point of view (even if it’s hard to hear). Regardless of what they want, don’t feel pressured to do something you’re not ready for, or be in a friendship you no longer feel is right for you. Keep the focus on yourself and your needs.

If you have done the emotional work and come to the conclusion that the healthiest option is to move on from the friendship, you have every right to make that choice. Even though it hurts tremendously now, take this experience as a lesson for what you don’t want in your friendships.

If you are considering giving your friend another chance, here are some questions to ask yourself first:

• If you tell them how their actions made you feel, will your friend be able to accept and listen, or will they get defensive, gaslight, or turn the blame on you? If they want to deny that they acted in a way that caused you pain, are they a safe person to have in your inner circle?
• If they apologized, do you feel in your gut that they are truly sorry? In her book The Power of Apology , therapist Beverly Engel outlines The Three R’s of a genuine apology: Regret (empathy for what you are feeling, acknowledging that their actions caused you pain), Responsibility (not making excuses or blaming others for their actions), and Remedy (expressing that they are willing to take action to make things right and repair the damage, including not repeating the harmful behavior).
• If you go back to being friends, are you willing to risk your friend betraying or otherwise harming you again? How will you respond if this happens?
• Are you staying in the friendship because you’re afraid of starting over or being alone? What would change if these fears were no longer a concern?
• Are they rushing you to “ get over it ” and let them off the hook for their actions? If so, how does this make you feel?
• Are you hoping that your friend will change, or can you accept them as-is?

I want to end by saying that you are worthy of the kinds of friendships you desire . Don’t let one, two, or a hundred bad experiences with the wrong people turn you off from finding the right ones.

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Betrayal and Human Relationships

Betrayal is a part of life and can improve future relationships..

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Friends betray friends. Siblings betray siblings. Lovers betray lovers.

Betrayal can occur in all relationships. The intensity of the relationship determines the intensity of the emotional stress caused by the betrayal. The more intense the relationship, the more intense the betrayal is. For example, a salesperson who lies to you about the qualities of a product you are buying is an act of betrayal. The effects of this betrayal are slight because you and the salesperson only shared a brief relationship. Conversely, if a romantic partner cheats on you, the effects of that betrayal can present significant interpersonal trauma. The consequences of betrayal can range from disappointment in less intense relationships to post- traumatic stress in more intense relationships.

Trust is the key component of all relationships.

Without trust, betrayal cannot occur. The only people who can betray you are people you trust. The emotional impact of betrayal increases with the level of trust you have in the person who betrayed you.

The emotional impact of betrayal can range from disappointment in less intense relationships and repulsion due to the lack of integrity of the person who betrayed you to fear of losing a close relationship, especially a romantic connection. Trust is fragile. Regaining trust is difficult, if not impossible.

When people are betrayed, they often consciously or unconsciously seek revenge . The betrayed person’s world suddenly destabilized, often causing grief , a sense of loss, and depression . Revenge is a form of “justice” or “fairness” that can restore a collapsing world. Revenge destroys not only the target of the revenge but also the person seeking revenge. Revenge hijacks emotional energy that could otherwise be spent recovering from the aftermath of betrayal and seeking new, more stable relationships.

Another consequence of betrayal is the fear of being emotionally hurt again.

To avoid being emotionally hurt again, the betrayed person will often build an emotional wall to prevent people from getting too close. People hiding behind emotional walls often sabotage relationships that become too intense to avoid the possibility of future betrayal. People entrenched behind emotional walls often experience loneliness and isolation. The pain of loneliness and isolation is less intense than the pain of betrayal.

The pain of loneliness and betrayal often mutates to victimhood, which provides a sense of emotional comfort. The problem with cowering behind an emotional wall is that the entrenched person often experiences a conundrum. They desire a close personal relationship with other humans but are reluctant to foster new relationships because they are afraid of experiencing the possibility of another emotional disaster.

Emotional walls provide safety but prevent the person from experiencing the true happiness that comes from close relationships with other humans. Intrinsic to human relationships is the possibility of betrayal. This cannot be avoided. Shunning close personal relationships is not the answer.

Building and sustaining personal relationships is a learning process.

Past failures serve as guidelines for future behavior. Eventually, through the trial-and-error method, people discover what works for them and what does not work for them. Betrayal is part of the learning process.

People cross busy streets every day, knowing they could get hit by a car and suffer devastating injuries and even death. People get into automobiles without giving a second thought to the possibility of getting into an accident. People board airplanes every day, accepting the possibility the plane could suddenly fall from the sky. People engage in risky behaviors because the benefit of the activities far outweighs the possibilities of catastrophic failure. Accepting the possibility of betrayal in personal relationships is just another risk on the long list of risky behaviors people undertake every day.

The pain of betrayal cannot be avoided. However, knowing the emotional consequences of betrayal before it occurs often mitigates the pain of betrayal. Accepting the fact that betrayals are a normal part of life reduces their emotional intensity.

If there is an upside to betrayal, it is this: True happiness has no meaning without experiencing true sadness.

John R. "Jack" Schafer, Ph.D., is a behavioral analyst for the FBI, and is the author of The Like Switch: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Influencing, Attracting, and Winning People Over.

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What to Do When a Friend Betrays You

by Kare Anderson | Mar 6, 2010 | behavior , Book , Caring , Choice , Friendship | 5 comments

I don’t know which betrayal felt worse. I do know they can be seen as an opportunity to re-learn lessons on how to move from anger to equanimity, steps that you may find helpful.

“Trust is the glue that holds relationships together.” ~ Price Pritchett

Recall that hot flush of recognition when you first realized that someone you knew would act one way and didn’t? How can you avoid becoming wary or even bitter?

Funny how one betrayal is closely followed by another wrenching experience — or so it seems. Even if one’s life is on a fairly even keel, one trust-breaker situation makes the second one hit harder- if we let it.

“Sometimes you cannot believe what you see; you have to believe what you feel. And if you are ever going to have other people trust you, you must feel that you can trust them, too -even when you’re in the dark. Even when you are falling.”~ Morrie Schwartz, quoted in Tuesdays With Morrie by Mitch Albom.

“No idea will work if people don’t trust your intentions toward them.” ~ Marcus Buckingham, Now, Discover Your Strengths .

We’ve all faced mind-grabbing breaks of trust, and will again. Conversely, we have betrayed another’s trust and dodged the situation rather than sought to rectify it.  

“You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don’t trust enough.” ~ Frank H. Crane

For more than a decade, I’ve studied, taught, and written about focusing attention on the positive parts of every interaction. Yet, like breathing, it isn’t a one-time practice.

“Character is what you really are. Reputation is what people say you are. A person of character is trustworthy. The other kind looks for an easy way out.” ~ John Wooden

Getting back to equilibrium means letting go of a better past. Remember, every negative action comes from the root feeling of fear.

That does not mean we have to step into the street again and let another car hit us again .

The next time you lose trust, try taking these steps forward towards equanimity for yourself:

1. Let the full emotional effect of the betrayal sink in, then do not re-run the scene more than three times.

2. Step into the other person’s shoes to see the interaction their way. Is this a pattern in his behavior towards you or is it an anomaly?

3. Look to the part of that person’s potentially positive intent, especially when he appeared to have none in that situation. You will see the whole picture more clearly and calmly.

4. Praise the part of that person’s behavior you want to reinforce and to flourish. (Ironically, this is one of your most self-protective tools in such moments.)

5. Ask her for a time to talk. Then, in factual, non-blaming language, describe the specific behavior that bothered you. Next describe your feelings. Then wait for a response.

6 . Listen closely and with an open heart and mind to the answer. If your picture of her actions was accurate, and if she is solely defensive -without offering a change in behavior, then you have learned a lot.

7.  If someone breaks trust with you twice it is highly likely there’ll be a third time. Why place yourself in that position again? You’ll be inclined to blame that person for his unchanged behavior rather than asking yourself why you did not change yours. Repeatedly asking someone to change a behavior towards you usually engenders their irritation with you. It is more likely that the person will be defensive and rationalize her behavior.  and/or avoid contact until she needs you.  Unfortunately, the relative power in the situation (who needs whom the most) will probably determine when and how you two communicate in the future.

But it doesn’t have to determine the safe distance you choose to have with that person. My friend, Paul Geffner says we gather many friends and acquaintances over our lifetime. The key to living well with them is to recognize the right distance in which to hold them. Those you enjoy and trust you bring closer.

8.  Choose your distance, following Geffner’s approach. After all, you always have three choices in any situation:

1.Change now you act towards that person.

2. Accept her behavior.

The lesson:  Sooner, rather than later, take these steps. The sooner you act the more options you have and the more likely it is that you can restore the friendship – or find out that you can’t.

Choose what you can do positively for yourself rather than against another.

The more quickly you’ll climb out of that negative “re-run” rut of thoughts and toward the positive part of that person, the more likely you’ll return to an even keel – and the more likely you’ll be able to preserve a properly distanced relationship.

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Kare, – What can I say? This is such a great article that I read and re-read it several times to absorb every word you say and quote. I have suffered myself from betrayal from close friends and sometimes it felt like ‘a little death’ for me. You have put some fantastic ideas of how to cope with the phenomena in a nutshell.However it is not that easy to learn to cope emotionally when female friends are concerned. I understand that there is a lot of fear and personal weakness involved, sometimes we set too high standards that the other side is not prepared to meet or demands too much in return to feel sheltered. You are speaking oftenly about interconnections.Can you ever imagine what strong emotions can surprisingly build up maybe on a compensatory level. It is almost impossible to ask her out for a time to talk things over(5). I know excellently that in a relationship,that the one who loves less, is under control.’ But these are very delicate matters when emotions get involved. The blow and ‘betrayal’ nearly killed my hungry for love and understanding lonely heart – a true ‘lonely hunter.’ Now that I think over all what you are advising I feel much better,but I wasn’t lucky enough to read you ‘Just in time’ and payed severely for my blind ignorance. She was even kind enough to synthesize her autobiography. It goes like this: 1)I am walking down the street. On my way a see an enormous hole.I fall in it, I feel helpless …without any hope. It is nit my fault. I need ages, to find a solution and an emotional outlet; 2) I am walking on the same street. There is that enormous hole ahead of me. I pretend that I don’t notice it. I fall again. I can’t believe that I am at the same place for a second time.Again it is not my fault. Yet I need quite a period of time to get out; 3)I am walking the same street again. The big hole is still there. I see it clearly. And I am in the hole again. I have developed a habit to fall in.My eyes are wide open and I know exactly where I am. I get out immediately; 4) I am walking the same street again. The hole is there, but I walk surrounding it; 5)I am walking on another street. P.C. -‘Forgive Me!’ – For the words I am unable to say; For the feelings I can’t show although I want to desperately; For my inability to love or even truly care,when you need some warmth;For the silence,instead of saying these words we all are starving for; Forgive me my pride that freezes my gentle feelings; I really desire to be somebody else; But I need to be sure in you love; Your love is my only shelter; Find Me!; You are the only one who can transform my my great weakness into a miraculous strength.

Kare, – P.C. – I was discussing a’ virtual betrayal’.I did not have a contact in the real world except a few telephone calls. But the intensity of emotions and trust were enormous!

Michael, Rather than to re-run painful past experiences, some trauma experts believe one either exposes oneself repeatedly to the feeling by discussing it over and over (as some therapists did to those in or near the buildings at 8/11) and thus make the scenes so familiar one can move on. Other experts suggest supplanting that emotion with another pattern that leads to a positive emotion. That is akin to the finding that one can smile oneself into a better way of feeling better than one can think oneself into a happier mood.

Personally I have found that a bit of the Buddhist approach works best. Step away from the scene and look back at it, with some detachment. What actually happened? What was my role? I cannot fully know what the other person thought yet I can choose to look with loving kindness at us both, seek to understand how I might walk down a new street (to quote that familiar “same street” parable she shared with you) and see if I can experience a more positive outcome in the future.

Repeatedly re-living a situation makes it more likely i will think that scene is happening in other situations when it may not be and, if it is, I am more likely to repeat the past behavior that did not serve me (and perhaps the other person). i wish you well Michael on your own healing path forward.

You make the important point of giving yourself time to step back, to regain composure, and to find out whether the betrayal actually took place or was simply a misunderstanding. Relationships are seldom perfect and communication is so important in making them work.

Thanks for focusing on this important topic.

Best, Irene

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Kare: Thanks for your wonderful piece of advise. I value every word you said! However I never suspected that such a war could occur in a ‘virtual’ world in which I started gaining expertise the tough way. I remember a terrific interview with the fabulous Harriet Rubin, that was more than revealing. My personal observation is that the ‘weaker male kind’ can seriously suffer ,when facing a lady with a particularly strong ego, although not fully justified. I committed a awesome mistake,not taking into account the zodiac and astrological incompatibilities , the numerological specifics of the numbers 11 versus 13,etc. You should know that a few know the Buddhist approach and the Chinese thinkers like Lao Tzu, better. So essentially what I was trying was to beat ‘Fate’,which I believe is not predetermined. The lady of my’ unclear desire’ even informed me that she was told by the ‘Worldly Hierarchy’ that she had no ‘Karma’ standing in her path. Anyway,I realize that I was not at my best in communicating my feelings and totally misjudged the time schedules putting unnecessary time pressure. But please try to understand me. I never had such a happening in my life time since I have always been lacking a similar soul in the intellectual and spiritual sense of the word. Once I want to thank you and Doctor Irene Levine for sharing your wisdom with me. I also want to apologize for not greeting you heartily on the international ‘Women s Day’ . It seems that we get our minds straight only after. Cheers.

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